Few things I want to share with my friends (My personal views on living my crazy stupid life :D )

Life worth living

Before reading the following lines please make sure that you are free from any negative thought ( Anger, Lust, Greed, hatred and prejudice)
If you are wondering why this is so necessary let me tell you why..

There are two dimensions of human conscience, equally powerful and effective. One of them is very conservative and egotistic which includes facets like Anger, greed, hatred and prejudice. As you will notice these characters are driven by any person's inner desire to place his own self over any other thing in the world ( You should not confuse it with self respect ). When we see or listen to anything new our mind tend to evaluate it by our past experiences and our own judgement. This works like a balancing machine, every thing you will put on it will show you it's measurement in terms of visual readings. And what will happen if the scale of the balance is not correctly set ? You are right, it will give you a wrong reading, a wrong information and hence no matter how wise is the information it's true essence will never reach your mind or soul. So let's reset our scale first, remove any thought ( for few minutes if it feels too difficult  which is making you judgement in simple words just read the following words and try to understand it's meaning without any prejudice.

OK... so now you are ready.

Dear Friend,

First let me thank you for taking your time out to read this. Please do me a favor,please trust my words even if I may sound crazy. All the things written hence forth are my interpretation of a weird dream.. as the things are unfolding  Following are points out of which i need you to choose any ten (But you must include first three) and implement in your life completely without any exception. Well , You may be thinking, who am I to tell you what to do and what not to. You have choice to reject it completely and go back to your normal day to day life, no issues but if you find it useful then you have to promise that you will pass this message to your dearest friends.

1. Take a pen and paper (right now) and note down your principles closest to your heart. I will explain you later why this is so necessary  for now only thing i can reveal is, "Without principles your life is like a game of football where every other person is capable of changing your life and your way of thinking. in fact you will be slave of the situations and ultimately you will lose your free will. so start now and pen down every thing which drives in your life, these can be as simple as "I will never ever judge a person by his looks" or "I get up early in the morning no matter what".
2. Now you have taken a small step on a long journey, now you are ready to listen and think about other important things you are going to read hence forth. The second point is called "law of equality". You must have read Gita, if not then do it after 4 days of reading this note. you must be wondering, why wait 4 days or why read Gita at-all. I am telling you to wait for 4 days because you need to prepare yourself before reading Gita, if you are not in the right frame of mind then rather then getting desired results you may fall in depression !!!!! Yes believe me it's true... Gita is not a book .. There is no other thing in entire world like gita.. But the thing is, in kaliyuga we humans are trapped in a dark blanket of ignorance and to make you understand it more clearly i would like you to recall the movie matrix, now consider yourself as a person trapped in matrix. the matrix is the false world created by our greed, lust and ignorance which makes you think and see the world in a completely different view. it is driving you away from the completely opposite reality. we are being in-forced into a fixed frame of desires. Let's take another example, there is a common weed in country side which needs taller trees to grow on, the tree needs them too for fertility and growth. but what if the weed is allowed to grow uncontrollably !!! Yes you are right... it will cover the tree and ultimately suffocates it to death.. (If you belong to village you must have seen the example) So...what can we do ? We should not destroy the weed completely as it will be a loss for us .. as in society we need these traits to fulfill our basic needs, but we need to trim them down when they are growing over our own self. Now the question is how will you know that what to trim, how much to trim and when to trim? and there is only one answer  "When your desires are trying to make you blind and you are not able to follow "The law of equality" then it is the time to say ENOUGH !!! And this is the time to trim your desires. Let's take an example of sex. We need it, this is a genuine earthly desire, but when this desire occupies your conscience then you are not able to focus on other things which are equally important. In nutshell keep your desires to your requirement level. Never ever overdo it. Your life, your time and your thoughts are priceless, your ultimate goal is beyond these desires. these desires are like food items sold by road side vendors, you stop in your way and enjoy the tasty food but your ultimate goal is not to eat whole day your goal is to walk ahead and reach your ultimate destination, so enjoy your food but don't waste your time by overdoing it. So now you are ready to understand the "law of equality", you must have read or heard that we are not our body rather we are a soul dressed in a earthly body, But without experiencing this truth you will never be able to understand it's true meaning. So what is this soul ? Is it visible? or is it a form of energy ? is it tangible ? and the question is if we have not seen it or felt it then why is it so necessary to know about it ? These questions are very genuine in fact without questioning we should not accept a thing. You will find the answers in below lines. The soul or Aatman is the purest thing in your body, it brighter than 1000 sun it's lighter then a feather, it's innocent then a new born child and it works in a very strange way. We all have felt it in a way or the other but our polluted mind has made us ignore him i will try to bring those memories back to you so that we stay on the same page. Recall the moment when you did some extraordinary things, things which you cherish from the core of your heart, or recall the moment when you were completely peaceful your eyes were closed and your mind was free from any idea from this world. You were feeling above happiness or sorrow, gain or loss. That was the time my friend when you were most close to your soul. If you have not experienced it ever before then you have certainly missed the state of complete bliss !!! Any way, for those of us who have experienced it this fact will be easy to understand and grasp. So just like me and you every other living being has his or her soul. This soul is connected to a divine soul (Parambramh) which is the source as well as the sink. we all are connected to the source just like the rays of light are connected to sun. Irrespective to our appearance and form our soul are alike. we have had many bodies before but our soul was the same. it was there before creation of the universe and it will exist even after the doomsday (Pralay) Our physical body defined our sex, living form (man, cat, dog etc) but our soul  never changed. every soul is equal and part of the same devine parambramha. we have emerged from the same source and our ultimate aim is also to merge back to the same parambramha, who is the source of complete bliss (Parmanand) The pleasure which we seek on earth is limited by our physical sences, like our nose can smell, our tongue can taste but the state of complete bliss (Parmanand) can not be seen or felt by our body only our soul can experience it and that is why we can not receive the moksha without leaving our body. So the question is why we are here? is this life a complete waste? Do we even have a goal? Yes we have.. We have the goal of completing our earthly duties without getting attached to earthly desires. And this is very necessary that we respect other souls on the earth as they are same like yours. This is law of equality, treating all souls alike. 
3. Knowledge ... There is a difference between knowledge and information. True knowledge is the one who introduces you to your inner-self. rest everything is a set of information which will help you survive and prosper in this mortal world. So be knowledgeable as well as well informed, read as much as you can and question everything you learn. God has gifted you one thing which is very unique i.e conscience ...our conscience churns every thing we put in it and the thing which gets imprinted is the very essence of it. Hence question as much as you can, and find answers by your own. And you will find that with time your horizon of knowledge has broadened and you will feel enlightened. Read as much as possible, atleast one book each 15 days. choose one topic or subject and be master of that subject, keep learning and learning.
4. Power of language: Language as we know it is a strong communication tool. A multilingual person has a bigger domain as compared to monolingual or bilinguals. Make a target that that you will learn a language each 5 year. Learning a language is an easy task if you learn how to keep your slate clean, we tend to learn a new language with the help of other language we already know, this is the biggest mistake we make. Every language has it's unique characteristic and hence should be learnt differently. For example it will be very difficult if you are trying to learn English with the help of Hindi, this way you will never be able to think in the new language. you will always try to translate every thing from an older language to the new one and this makes the task very difficult  Apart from learning language you should read lot of books from that language, you need to watch movies and plays to understand the culture associated with it. This will help you further in the point no. 3.
5. Overcoming your fear: Every one of us have few fears in our life. These fears are not there by default for example when you were born, you didn't fear height, water, darkness or public speaking etc. with due course of time these fear accumulated in our head from our experiences. Overcoming your fears is the most rewarding thing in our life. The feeling of achievement and self-respect you earn by overcoming them is priceless. So do yourself a favor and note down your biggest fears and make a target to over come them in coming time. challenge yourself, this will not only make you brave but this will also give a boost to your confidence. And gradually you will realize that you are now a completely different man who is confident and bold.
6. Quit an addiction: we discussed about desires earlier in point no. 2. Addiction has a close resemblance to your desires. Addiction is a form of desire which has eventually conquered your mind with time. Quitting an addiction helps you in 3 ways. firstly it gives you control over your own mind and your will.Secondly It will give you immense satisfaction "More is the craving of any habit more satisfaction you will get after quitting it" this is universal truth !! Try it to believe it.. third benefit is, you will feel more energized, with time our addictions take control of our senses too and in most of the cases it weakens them, for example smoking weaken our power to smell and taste things. After only 3 day of quitting you will start feeling the difference.You will become a better man. Everything you do will be better. You will look better, you will talk better, your presence will be felt stronger, your social skills will improve dramatically. You will no longer live inside a bubble of smoke and dreams, it will be you against the world, like it was meant to be with you riding on the neck of each and every hater who thought that you were inferior. it's time for you to be kick ass.
7. Music and art: As food is the fuel of life similarly music and art is the fuel of your mind. These are the devine ways of expression. learn to appreciate them and you will find that you are able to understand the meaning behind a smallest note of music and smallest stroke of brush. Infact if possible learn any instrument and master it. Every one has an artist inside him, not let that artist die so easily,, only thing that needs is your nourishment  Go play some tune. Draw some sketch or click some snaps... it may take years to master any one of them. After you are done you will see the difference !!!
8. Health: Your body is a temple for your soul, so don't malign it. keep good care of your health. A powerful man with powerful thinking can be change agent a leader. A weak person is neither capable to defend himself nor others. People tend to give more value to the thoughts of a strong person rather than a weak person. Live healthy and die healthy.
9. Embrace your blood: Respect your culture and tradition. this is the tendency of lowlife scums who treat other's culture and tradition as superior from their own. these people have a inferiority complex which they will never be able to overcome. Wear traditional dress at home. if wearing a TIKA is your tradition, then do it, don't feel that what people will think. People stink and this world is full of them. Be proud of what you are, you belong to the most pure land with richest tradition and culture. Protect it, it's your mother, it has taken care of your fathers and forefathers it has big heart and caring anchal, don't betray her. 
10. Be straight forward and be a man: (Point omitted ) 
11. Stay out of debt – Debt is prison. As long as you are in debt you will always be a prisoner. CASH IS KING. If you have the cash, pay for it. If you don’t have the cash, SAVE UP!  STAY OUT OF DEBT AT ALL COSTS.
12. Not more than one hour on FB (I know it's difficult but trust me it's necessary and if possible decrease it further, it's not for the person who have bigger goal) Not spend all day on social networking sites - These sites are for girls. Liberated women who are so independent that they have all the time in the world to whine about how there are no real men. Stay the f**k off of these places, there are better uses of your time.
13. Give 110% at all times: Whatever you do in your life, either give your fullest effort or don't do it at all. Half hearted efforts are for losers. Winning is not always necessary ..even if you come at no. 2 or 3, atleast you will have satisfaction that you gave your best shot.
14. Start power dressing: Don't dress just for the sake of covering your body. dress yourself to present what you are. You are powerful you are intelligent you are kick-ass  you can slaughter any one with your wit and knowledge so let it be visible from your dressing. Look at vivekanad ...learn the art of power-dressing.
15. Be a man of your words: You must have heard it many a times but it's true meaning reflects only when you fail in your commitment, it raises question on your credibility and you lose your self confidence. so the best way to practice this habit is, DO NOT PROMISE AT ALL...If some one makes you promise that means he/she dosen't trust you at all. To follow one's word is the reflection of a true man. SO START NOW. USE EVERY WORD CAREFULLY and once said stick to it no matter what.
16. Now this will get tougher !!! this point is toughest of them all.. condition is, you will have to follow it completely without fail... Take a calender ... Underline 25 days in a row... make a checklist of following pointers for next 30 days !!!
1. write 25 mails to 25 different persons (One each day) whom you appreciate. write the reason why you appreciate them.
2. find a stranger each day, talk to him for 5 minutes, if he walks away in between you fail and failure means you will have to do it again.
3. walk alone for 30 minutes (atleaast) each day (Yes...even if you are ill.... No one cares for your illness... A task is a task...stop giving excuses....be a man and DO IT)
4. Take a moment, close your eyes and day dream about your future. Yes it may involve beautiful maiden.
5. Eat atleast one thing unique for next 25 days.
6. This sub point is optional but this is most adventurous .... Write 2000 words each day in a notebook about your struggle with life. after 25 days you will have a book written by you about you... Bingo !!!!! You are a writer !!!! Get it printed and keep a copy and give me one copy (Don't worry i will pay for it )
7. watch a documentary each day for next 25 days. (Don't give me the crap that you don't have it in your laptop, buffer it, download it, i don't know but i want my 25 documentary any how)
8. Get any damn book ANY .. read one chapter each day... if you finish it before 25 days... Guess what !!! GET ANOTHER..
9. Study a topic you’d like to master each day (As discussed earlier....You need to master a topic and so you will read some thing related to it EACH DAY for at-least 30 minutes)
10. In which ever city you are in ...get the map of the city..mark 25 different places where you have never been....visit one each day..
11. Read an editorial article from a news paper each day.
12. Take a TV break for next 25 days, MEANS NO TV WATCHING FOR 25 DAYS.
13. Read this 20 point resolution each day (Just after getting out of your bed)
14. write a letter to 10 year older you, means write a letter addressing yourself for year 2023 (Write your expectations from the future you) add 100 words each day NOT MORE THAN 100 WORDS.
15. Take a paper, write down your goals for next year and year ahead... i.e for next 25 years ... one year each day.
16. Open youtube and learn a trick and master it for next 25 days.
17. Avoid lift/escalators for next 25 days, use stairs instead..
18. Get your ass up before 7 every day for next 25 days. WITHOUT FAIL even if you have nothing to do.
19. Don't lie for next 25 days: I know it's hard but try it, keep silence if you can't speak the truth but you can not lie.
20. Do atleast one selfless act each day and forget it.
17. Meditation: Sit down, relax and practice yoga with meditation in a closed room on a clean bed atleast for 30 minutes.
18. Read Gita: every week ... read to understand..where ever you have doubt or ambiguity ...just ask....it has key to the last task (20th) your 20th task is a riddle. It may take seconds or it may take years but you will have to figure out it's meaning by yourself. the day you will understand gita completely you will be able to complete the 20th task.
19. Free yourself...

Make new bonds break old threads. you need to reach beyond these boundaries... start sailing now.